Genderqueer & Unconventional Wedding

So this is slightly off-theme of what I normally blog about here (my mental health, sexuality, etc), but it is coming up a lot right now. I’m engaged and it seems like there is not a lot of information out there for Genderqueer Weddings. I’m non-binary, I use they/them pronouns, and to a lot of […]

Overcoming Sexual Brokenness

My entire young adult life my sexuality has felt like an under developed work in progress, riddled with shame and internalized stigma. I am excited to be in a place where I can really start to explore and experience feeling my sexuality as healthy, and progress beyond awkward buttsecks jokes on instagram.  What is helping […]

Burnt out – amory

I’ve been polyamorous for 6 years. I realized aside from one serious relationship in my youth I’ve been polyamorous most of my adult life.  I recently tried something I called “Nomadic Polyamory”, that is living across multiple spaces with multiple partners. It was just 2, plus my own home space, essentially meaning that for a […]

Nomadic Polyamory

When I google Nomadic Polyamory, it brings up tales of world travelers, finding love in corners of the earth when our presence there is fleeting. That is not what I mean by Nomadic Polyamory, but it is a phrase I have started to casually use as the best descriptor I can find of my current […]

Reverse Glorification

How much of dogma is currpted magik with pure intentions. To move backwards through the meanings of things like power and control, how do we claim it without purpetuating backwards that we know.  The world made me feel helpless, so I asked my lovers to also instill this feeling. It was a darkness that out […]

Rising out of pain cycles

It’s the hamster wheel struggle. Round and round with no way out. Reactions which were at first adaptive become mind traps. Oppression breads hatred. Kindness does not resist, does not know how. Infused with new knowledge, I sent sigils out. My chaos reflects back at me, my magik can only adapt myself. DO I change […]

Privacy & Integration

For a while there, my own reflection on my Instagram page was what gave me hope. A selfie to celebrate waking up and a moment to bask in the glory of my gender fuckery when the mascara darkening  my cursed moustache was perfectly applied. Of course, this testament to my own hope was open because […]